How To Be Successful With Internet Dating Services

How To Be Successful With Internet Dating Services

More and more, single men and women are turning to the Internet to meet possible partners. I mean, why not? The many testimonials by those who successfully engage in Internet dating is encouraging enough to inspire singles to explore all the possibilities online.

For beginners, it would be best to search online for the most popular Internet dating services – there must be a reason why they’re popular. They’ll also have a much greater number of members for you to meets.

Here’s some basic things to remember for a successful Internet dating experience:

Try to have good pictures of yourself on your profile. In online dating first impressions are important – without it, no two people would ever meet.

It’s always a good idea, if possible, to post a variety of pictures to your Internet profile, some in casual dress, perhaps one in suit or maybe a picture showing you enjoying a hobby. These pictures will reflect the type of person you are, encouraging other members to contact you for a potential date. Don’t forget to smile, and please refrain from posting nude photos – you don’t want to give out the wrong signals.

Once you find someone you like, you’ll have to send an initial email. These emails should be short, clever and, if you can, make it funny The moment you make a potential date, the better your chance of getting a date.

A great place to use humor is in the subject line. Your potential date is more likely to read your email if it catches their attention. You could try a humorous remark about something in his or her profile, but be sure that your humor isn’t insulting — instead of getting a date you may get yourself an online enemy. Also, refrain from commenting on their picture unless your remark is complimentary.

In you e-mail, comment on things that you have in common, things you could only know from reading the profile of your potential date. This will help make them less nervous about meeting you. After all, if you have nothing in common, you’ll have nothing to talk about, leading to an awkward and uncomfortable first date.

Additional things to remember

1.Never use "smileys" or winking emoticons unless you’re a girl and you want to show interest.

2.Feel free to ask for a phone number after a couple of rounds of messages. But respect the decision of your potential date if they don’t give you their number right away – they may feel they need to know you better first.

3.Once you get you potential date’s phone number, be polite and respectful. respectful. Use light humor in your initial conversations to put them at ease.

4.It’s not advisable to spend too much money on your first date, as it’s really a "look-see" to find out if you find each other attractive in person. Some people may look great in their online photos but, face-to-face, you may not be attracted to them. Meeting for coffee is a good first date option, since you won’t be expected to spend too much.

5.On the other hand, if your date does look as good in persona as they did in their picture, don’t hesitate to compliment their looks. People enjoy hearing that they’re attractive, and it will put them at ease.

6.Make sure you also check out the profiles of dating-site members without pictures accompanying their profiles. Many very attractive individuals don’t post a picture, hoping to avoid getting a lot of e-mails from players. Justbe sure to get a pictures from them before you meet them for a date.

Are you buying for the person that seems to have everything? There are a lot of silly things you can buy, though that person does have to have a rather keen sense of humor to receive some of them

Are you buying for the person that seems to have everything? There are a lot of silly things you can buy, though that person does have to have a rather keen sense of humor to receive some of them

Everyone has something they love. It might be something they collect, or a television show, movie, or cartoon that they are particularly fond of. If you know they like something like that, you can usually find novelty socks that will go with what they like. If they have a certain hobby like riding horses or if they are an artist or photographer, it’s not that hard to find novelty socks that would go with their hobby as well.

The reason why these works so well is that even though they are immensely impractical, they show you thought of them when you bought the gift rather than just grabbing something off of the shelf. Many times, the thought put into something is much more important than the gift itself. Novelty socks used to be something that children got from aunts and uncles for Christmas each year, but lately, they have been considered a much more acceptable gift, especially when they are given for the reasons of humor.

Novelty socks come with more than just pictures or silly designs. There are some that have no toes in them, and fit around the toes like a glove. I’m not really sure why these are around, but if you know someone who is weird about feet, they will die with laughter if you give them this type of novelty socks. You can find some that have hidden pockets in them that might have a surprise included. Others have things that hang from them.

You may find novelty socks in your local stores. They are usually with the normal socks, or near the accessories section of the store. If you can’t find anything in your local stores that fits what you have in mind, you should be reasonably sure you can find something neat and unique online with a simple search. You may find other gift ideas when you search for those special socks as well.

Wedding Speeches: A Quick Outline

Wedding Speeches: A Quick Outline

Wedding speeches are reserved for the most important members of the wedding party and closest family and friends.

If you are one of the ones expected or asked to do a wedding speech, then preparing is a must. Winging it just won’t cut it especially when your wedding speech will be on video from now until eternity.

Wedding speeches should not last more than three or four minutes. It reminds me of that famous quote by John F. Kennedy,

“Public speaking is the art of diluting a two-minute idea with a two-hour vocabulary.”

It’s actually much harder to do a short wedding speech than a long one which reminds me of another quote,

“It usually takes me more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech.” –Mark Twain

You have to have an opening and closing. You probably want to throw in a story and at least one piece of humor. And it all has to make sense. Please, please, please don’t apologize for how bad you are as soon as you stand up, which reminds me of yet another quote by Kin Hubbard,

“Why doesn’t the fellow who says, "I’m no speechmaker," let it go at that instead of giving a demonstration?” hahaha I love that one.

Here’s a quick outline for a wedding speech:
Note: each one of the bullet points below could have many variations

· Opening – Could be comments about the lovely affair
· Comments about the bride and groom
· Story about your interactions with the bride, groom or both.
· Humor- Pick something that applies to them and is appropriate
· Closing – Something touching
· Toast – Brief and touching or funny

You’ll rarely be the hit of a wedding because of your wedding speech and rightfully so. The bride and groom are the stars. But poor preparation of your wedding speech certainly could make you the laughing stock.

Remember, you are going to perform your wedding speech live, but you’ll be on video forever. Take the time to prepare.

How to Prepare for Your Award Presentation Speech

How to Prepare for Your Award Presentation Speech

There’s nothing as exciting – and terrifying – as making an award presentation speech. With all eyes on you – some impressed, others critical, and a few envious – it’s of the utmost importance that you do not make a mistake. While we can’t read the future, there is a way to ensure that things would go your way as much as possible.

Look Good
You’ll feel better if you know that people won’t have anything to criticize your appearance for. One worry firmly squashed is still one worry less for your burdened mind. It would allow you to feel more confident with your speech because you know you look good.

Write Your Speech Down
Some people have the talent of winging it on the spot. Are you willing to risk and see if you’re one of them or not? If you’re not willing to take the risk then write your speech down. It’s best to prepare it as early as possible to have enough time to revise them at will.

Start by making a list of the things you should include in your award presentation speech. Would it be your role to explain the history of the award? Would it also be your task to explain other related factors such as the criteria used for determining the winner? Are there people in the crowd that you’d have to acknowledge? Would you have to provide a brief background for each candidate?

If you’re not sure about the required content for your award presentation speech, don’t hesitate to ask others. It’s better to verify the requirements beforehand than set yourself up for an unpleasant surprise at the big night itself.

Memorize Your Speech
There’s nothing wrong about having notes with you but it would definitely make your award presentation speech more professional if you’re able to complete it without glancing often at your notes. Do your best to memorize your speech. You don’t need to memorize it word for word. Being able to deliver the essence of your award presentation speech is more than enough. Take note of the important ideas and its sequence to make it easier for you to remember what to say and in what order.

Have Someone Proofread Your Speech
Ask someone with excellent communication and grammar capabilities to proofread your speech. There’s nothing worse than realizing you’ve pronounced a simple word erroneously. Ask for advice about your choice of words as well. Sometimes, one of two words of the same meaning would have more impact on the audience.

Keep It Brief
Even if you’ve been given the green light to speak as long as necessary, your audience would still better appreciate your award presentation speech if you can keep it short but sweet, brief but detailed.

Use Humor
Even the most serious assemblies won’t find a touch of humor here and there adverse as long as you’ve used the right joke at the right time. Humor will also make it easier for you to connect with your audience.

Speak with the Right Tempo
Take note of commas, periods, and other punctuation marks. These are present for a reason. You should always be aware of the tempo of your speech. Don’t speak too fast or slow.

Make Eye Contact
Keeping eye contact with your audience shows them you’re confident about what you’re saying and will consequently convince them to listen more to what you have to say.

That’s it. Good luck with your award presentation speech!

Bypass Gatekeepers to Reach and Close Decision Makers

Bypass Gatekeepers to Reach and Close Decision Makers

Does it sometime seem as though decision makers, economic buyers and hiring managers are residing in a gated community? As a sales person or job seeker, you don’t have to grope for the access code. Learn how to reach decision makers so you too can enter the gates of sales and employment.
Let’s face it, half the difficulty in getting a sale or the job is getting to the decision maker to make your case. Traditionally there was a secretary or administrative assistant to circumnavigate. Now there are electronic nemeses as well: challenges like voice mailboxes and blind e-mail addresses. The constant: it’s still tough to get past the gatekeepers – those professionals who "guard" the decision makers and often run interference for them – to get in front of decision makers.
Gatekeepers (GKs), those entrusted with guarding the Decision Makers (DMs) you wish to reach, can be your adversaries or allies, depending on your approach. They serve as a filter or screen for their bosses. Your challenge: to be regarded as important enough to be allowed into their inner sanctum. Gatekeepers may be administrative assistants, secretaries, voice mail systems or main switchboard operators. They may also be temporary workers or human resource representatives.
Here are my rules of thumb for "Passing Gate" and receiving consideration by decision makers:
1. Turn GateKeepers into allies: treat them with respect, humor and compassion. Their job can be tough too. They get it from both ends. Regard them as people with their own personality, not as faceless obstacles to be overcome at all costs.
2. Help decision makers look good in their boss’s eyes. Can you solve his/her problem? Let the GK know and they will "carry your torch" for you. Let the GK present you as his/her solution to the DM’s problem.
3. Recognize GKs as vital to your information gathering mission. Learn more about the DM, his/her department, recent trends, internal machinations within company, from the GK.
4. Call at different times if your initial attempts are rebuffed. Learn your DM’s schedule & moods!
5. Calling before/after GK’s shift will get you through directly. Many Decision Makers work long hours and feel less pressured before/after hours.
6. Use humor, creativity and topicality to distinguish yourself from others.
7. Take the time to establish rapport with each person you come in contact with. Whether or not they’re the actual person you were wishing to speak to, they are actual people – deserving of your courtesy, respect and attention.
8. Gather information with every call you make, whether or not you accomplish your primary purpose in calling. Ask appropriate questions and gather pertinent information on the decision maker, his or her schedule, what else is happening in the department of company at the time you are calling. You’re also interested in insights into the psychological make-up of the person you are calling. For instance, when is the best (and worst) time to call? How do you pronounce your decision maker’s name? Does he or she prefer an informal name: "T" for Hortence or Condy for Condelezza.
9. Utilize multiple forms of communication to make contact. Calls alone may or may not result in success. Consider using calls, postcards, faxes and e-mails to make contact. Some candidates ask decision makers (and their gatekeepers) what the best way is to communicate. Some managers prefer e-mail, others formal letters or faxes. Once you know, play it their way.
10. The phrase "returning his/her call" upgrades your call’s importance in GK’s eyes. Use it to indicate past history.
11. When leaving repeated voice mail messages, list a different benefit you provide or skill you possess during each message, as a way to both qualify and distinguish yourself.
12. Don’t use up entire voice mail tape. Make your messages succinct: short and sweet.
13. Stay upbeat – even if it’s the 10th unreturned message you’re leaving.
14. Be creative/funny/distinguishable so as to get consideration. One job candidate could never get her calls taken when she left her full name. One time, when asked by the gatekeeper for her name, she used a literary name from the television series I Claudius. She replied "Clydemonestra." She nearly fainted when the gatekeeper then asked her to spell her name. The Decision Maker, intrigued, took her call and turned out to also be a fan of the same PBS series.
15. Humor works. Self-effacing humor and humor in solidarity with the gatekeeper help open doors.
16. When all else fails, have your Gatekeeper call theirs!
1. Call and claim you’re family, or claim to be calling from the police, IRS or FBI. One candidate though he’d get through to an HR rep who was from India. He told the receptionist he was a relative calling from India. The rep’s father had been sick and she fearing the worst, dropped everything to take this call, in fear the news concerned her ailing father. Needless to say this candidate never worked for her company as a result of his misguided stunt.
2. Become surly, rude or sarcastic. It’s a turn-off and suggests immaturity and a lack of flexibility.
3. Avoiding filling up your recipient’s voice mailbox with long and detailed messages. Whether or not they are retrieved locally, it’s inconsiderate and shows bad judgment on your part. Instead show off your communication skills with a short and pertinent "elevator" speech. If leaving multiple messages vary your message, listing a different qualification or benefit you or your product or service provides each time you call.
4. Don’t make the Decision Maker wrong for not being there to answer you in person, or for not having responded yet. To you it may seem like a simple thing to do (returning your call) yet consider the many priorities busy professionals already have on their to-do lists. Believe it or not, you’re not the center of their universe!
5. Strive to make an impression. Using clichés and following scripts leaves you indistinguishable from the competition. Show some personality and spunk such that you’ll stand apart from the crowd when you call and be memorable when they decide who to call back.
While cold calling can be a numbers game, the essence of calling is a people game: treat others like the valued individuals they are and remain confident you’re someone whose call decision makers will be glad they took. The only Gates you may not master on your first call…Bill Gates.

How To Succeed In Love And Relationship

How To Succeed In Love And Relationship

So many men approach me saying something like "I am interested!" But the look on their face shows otherwise… They do not get clear about what they want or do not. Its important to know what you really can not tolerate in a partner. You should Make a list of your "don’t wants" and then cut it down to the 5-10 most important. I don’t have a positive outlook on a date if that person is always looking at the floor, not at you when talking and there seems to be no joy for them in life… What happens to humor and that little smile that will say a lot to me about who you are? Humor and a smile also shows me that joy won’t be a problem if involved in a relationship with me.
I have come to learn that positive begets positive, and in a world that seams so negative, and morals paramount to a plan B, I choose the humorous and smiley guy any day of the week or month. I have learned that to look beyond the looks and to look at the big picture is so important. People change as life goes on you know. I have been married for 15 years and what I looked for was someone that was truly faithful and had a sense of humor. Someone who made me laugh. It has been a wonderful 15 years and I hope for many more to come.
Its good manners to look at a person when you are being spoken to, yet a lot of honest and loving persons prefer to avoid eye contact. It’s good for a man and woman who are in love to look unto each other’s eyes so that each can know the internal feelings of the other concerning the relationship and also each can make a correct judgment on what type of a person he/she is.
How about my friend who says she is in a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about her and always putting her down, No matter what he does for this girl, nothing is ever good enough for her. And he tries so hard to please her. What is he doing so wrong to deserve all of this!! Sometimes it really hurts. Try something new. You know the best way to have things stay the same is to never do anything different. Vary your daily routine, just to keep yourself awake. Shake yourself up and notice what happens. Keep yourself open to chance opportunities, and then take advantage of them. One thing is for sure, there are people who will never get satisfied with what they have. you will hear them complaining about the size of their shoes as much as they complain about size of the coins in their pockets.
Its imperative to learn the art of showing a positive attitude toward life. This really draws attention both to yourself and your friends. I went out one day with a guy my age, and all the time i was enjoying my drink, this fool was trying to hit on the twenty one year old standing next to me. Of course if you love yourself you don’t need anyone else to. For me, this was so obvious, i did not ask any questions. Do you know why i did not? Because this jerk did not have any answer. I hit him hard on the face and told him to forget.

Taking Control of Your Workspace

Taking Control of Your Workspace

Let’s face it: it’s HARD to always be "on" when you’re at work. No matter how much you try, even the best-laid plans and schedules break down; sometimes it seems like all the forces are against you. You can get discouraged, weary, frustrated and unfocused. You can blame your boss, your spouse, interruptions, computer crashes, too much work, too little time…the list goes on and on.
When it comes right down to it, though, we each have to take responsibility for our work environments. It’s up to us to create pride and excellence in our workplaces. We need to take responsibility for our own productivity, morale, creativity, motivation and sense of humor that we bring to our work.
You say "but stuff just happens that I have no control over." That’s true. "Stuff" will happen, so it’s your job to come up with disaster prevention and back-up plans. Interruptions and snafus don’t need to become setbacks. Lists and schedules make the world go round. Be sure to prioritize, and take note of a few things that could be realistically postponed, if need be. Speaking of realism…be realistic in estimating how long it will take you to do the tasks at hand.
Computer maintenance can make a big difference in minimizing downtime. Regular virus scans, firewalls, defragmentation, and file back-ups are crucial to maintaining computer health and well-being.
There are a few well-known organizational tips worth repeating. My personal favorite is not touching mail more than once. I sit down with the mail at my desk, waste basket on one side, file cabinet at the other, and sticky notes in front of me.
If it’s junk, toss. If you can deal with it right now, do it, then toss it or add a sticky note with the details and file it. You aren’t going to deal with it right away? Then sticky note and file it. Do NOT just add it to a pile on your desk. Can you tell piles of papers are my personal Waterloo?
My other favorite is standing up when someone comes into my workplace. It doesn’t matter who it is or what’s the reason. The message to myself is: this is my workplace and I am here to work. If I’m not seated, chances are my guest won’t sit down either. It’s a bit more polite than just continuing to work without looking up…and if you do that, chances are the guest will still sit down.
Here is where a back-up plan is important. Have it already in your head what you will say if you are interrupted. "I’m busy at the moment, can you come back in____ minutes…hours"…whatever works. "Would you like to make an appointment?" "I’m taking a break at_____, would you like to join me?" And so on.
This even works when I’m working at my computer at home and the cat comes in. She loves to sit on my hands on the keyboard! or my lap, or right in front of the monitor. I stand up (no lap) and I even make an appointment with her (in my own mind of course!)…to play, feed her, watch tv for a few minutes so she can sit on my lap; sometimes we play Catch the Cursor for a couple minutes…something. She quickly leaves or curls up somewhere else if I’m not sitting down.
You may be thinking that productivity and organization are a lot easier to take responsibility for than motivation, morale, creativity and humor. Maybe your boss is stubbornly refusing to give you a raise, no matter how well you do your work. Maybe the job is "straight and narrow" with no room for creativity, and humor is ok in small doses, but not really appreciated. Maybe its your own work ethic nagging at you to work, work, work, no time for play. Maybe its your spouse nagging you with money worries, or feeling neglected.
You need to realize that in order for you to be a healthy, balanced, satisfied, and fulfilled human being, you need these things in your life. Rather than just going to your boss and complaining, you need to creatively bring your own suggestions and solutions to the table. You need your sense of humor to maintain a healthy perspective. The ability to express yourself creatively is as important as the ability to support yourself; so brainstorm with others, research, its up to you to find the innovative solutions. You need the breaks: 5 minutes; 15 minutes every hour or two; weekends; or a REAL vacation, so take them. And if your spouse misses you, take the vacation together.
If no matter how hard you try, you can’t get a grip on your lifestyle, then its time for YOU to change it. Consider a new workplace, or possibly being your own boss. Pride and excellence are up to YOU. It’s YOUR life.

Mother In Good Humor

Mother In Good Humor

Children – the little buggers can drain your energy, break your valuables and absolutely send you to the moon sometimes. The range of trouble can go from babies with their high decibel crying to toddlers with their never-ending, cluttering curiosity to your preschooler with his gripes and whines and on to your grade-schooler with her indignant attitudes. I have not yet the privilege of the higher ages yet, but I hear it escalates to over-sensitivity and highly dramatic meltdowns. With all this chaos, you have to wonder sometimes why we make the commitment to enter into motherhood. While the answer is not always immediately clear, we all know and can relate to the flipside of parenthood that offers a heapin’ helpin’ of good ‘ole fun and laughter!
Take the innocent observations of a child. One story that comes to mind involves our two cats and my grade-schooler. While our male cat stays inside, the female bolts out the door any time she gets the slightest chance, regardless of who’s in her way and how many groceries might come tumbling down from her intrusion. By day’s end, she returns after her fill of outside adventure. One night, my six-year-old noticed a change to the usual ritual. Amazed, he yelled through the house that I “come look”. Upon my entrance to the room, he says “Look! Soccer is so glad to see Tasha that he is even hugging her with his legs.” Yes, kitty may have been attempting fruitless amour but the lessons he taught my son on that particular night were nothing but heartfelt and loving.
Another story comes to mind from a friend. She was telling her preschooler about the day he was born. With great emphasis and plenty of body language she exclaimed that she struggled and struggled for hours, but then gave a mighty push and out came his head. Then, after catching her breath she pushed one final time and out came the rest of his body. Puzzled the little guy paused a moment and then inquisitively asked “…and then you put my head on my body?” Yes, ask any mom and there will be many examples of the never-ending humor that moms are privy to during any given day.
The truth is this joviality is more than just fun, it is downright healthy. Studies have shown that laughter is, indeed, the best medicine. Let’s starts with the famous quote from Voltaire “The art of medicine consists of keeping the patient amused while nature heals the disease.” Wellness centers across the U.S. have determined that humor and/or laughter lowers blood pressure, boosts the immune system, reduces muscle tension, fosters immediate relaxation, decreases stress hormones, elevates your mood and, quite frankly, just makes you feel good! And, for extra measure, it exercises your body. Not only does your body go into an isometric contraction with a good chuckle, but the contraction also centralizes around your abdominal area. Sounds like another great reason for us mommies to partake in the joys of a hearty guffaw!
With all these reasons to take in a comedy or two, not to mention finding the light hearted side of most any situation, laughter is a sure bet for easing the tensions of motherhood. And coming full circle, it is also one of the good reasons to become a mother in the first place.

Seo – Writing The Seo Tip Sheet

Seo – Writing The Seo Tip Sheet

Compilation writing is as simple as gathering facts together, rewording them and putting them in some kind of list. You only need about 250 words to write an ad or a blog. When it comes to the Internet, if you can make a list, you have the talent to write!

This is the type of article that you see that has suggestions such as “Top Ten Ways To Waterproof Your Sun Deck ” or “Three Surefire Ways to Get Your Cat to Swallow a Pill.” All you really need to write this type of article is a bit of know how about what you are writing about or good researching abilities.

The idea is to find tips that are unique or that are genuine answers to questions that people ask on about the topic. The most successful approach is to actually gear the article so that it makes the product you are writing about the answer to your question so people are encouraged to click on that affiliate link and buy it.

It is even better if you can make your top ten lists humorous. Think David Letterman when you think of your own top ten lists. A good example would be something like “The Top Ten Ways to Move in With Your Kids Without Them Noticing.” This is a successful formula and the type of article that is often picked up by some huge websites, especially those catering to family, shopping and entertainment. It just never seems to go out of style and the Top Ten List can also accommodate a range of sense of humor – from the very savage and scatological to the very light and child-like.

Tip sheets don’t often have humor but they are “evergreeners” when it comes to information. If the information in them is valuable and timeless you will always have visitors to that tip page on your site.